Why do we need friends? Friends are people we can share things with, and who can take a share of what we have. What we share with them is our happiness, what they take a share of is our sadness. People with a strong heart don’t actually need friends. They can enjoy their happiness alone, and bear their sadness alone. But my heart is not strong enough, so there are times when I desire friends. But I’m never certain how strong other people’s heart is, and therefore Im not certain if they share the same desire. I wish that our hearts could be very strong: then we wouldn’t need friends so much and it wouldn’t be so painful to not find the friends we desire.
People always ask me what advice I have for men and women. My advice holds in two sentences. One, if you really want to marry, you don’t have to wait for perfect love; marrying someone who is only a physical or only a spiritual friend is not too bad. Two, if you don’t particularly want to marry, but absolutely want to wait for love, then your heart must be strong enough, and you need to prepare for lifelong celibacy, because the chances of love happening are not so high.