论屌丝为何物?- What’s a ‘cock on the line’? – English

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First of all, how is a ‘cock on the line’ defined? What kind of person can be called a ‘屌丝’? Is it a purely lack of intelligence, or purely a lack of knowledge? Is it being poor – among the have-nots? I believe, however, that being a 屌丝 has nothing to do with how high your IQ is, nor even how rich you are. It is an attitude, which can be summarized as follows: a person who does not know his own direction, or does not know how big the world really is. He is fundamentally self-centred, and believes the world revolves around him. He is very rarely conscious of his own shortcomings and can’t reflect on mistakes and learn from them, and so on a very basic level, he is unclear about the distance that separates him from others. There is no way for him to approach the real world, and he lives purely in a world of his own construction. He loves fantasy, he has schemes and intentions, but cannot put them into action. Seeing that he is making no headway whilst others progress and mature, he becomes resentful, narrow-minded and a heart labouring under a serious inferiority complex. It is this kind of person that I call 屌丝.

The Characteristics of a 屌丝

1、Prejudice

Why do I say they are prejudiced? As their worldview is extremely small – so small that they can only see objects right in front of their eyes – they are absolutely like frogs at the bottom of a well. Being self-centred, their worldview starts with themselves. How far it extends depends entirely on their own individual intelligence, knowledge and cognition. Furthermore, if you desire to leap out of your own enclosed little world, you must first have the desire to see a wider world, you need a dynamic view of life, a little foresight into the future, it requires a degree of insight and deep perceptiveness. If you want to understand the world, and to understand the future – neither which are easy – you must be capable of thinking both logically and abstractly, 我把这个管作悟性. It is just like when discussing the global economy and you wish to focus on global and future trends, but there are some people who don’t really understand it, and don’t possess the right way of thinking to deal with it. Their thinking is static, and so they cannot see the future.

2、Narrow-mindedness

The vernacular is incapable of tolerance. It has no manner in which to accomodate differing opinions and viewpoints, no room to make allowances for the mistakes of others, no matter how small. In the workplace, in relationships, huge numbers of cases can be seen where narrow-mindedness has led to imbalance: people divorce over arguments about who does the washing up, split up over an unintentional word taken too much to heart, they resent their colleagues for being talented, and are envious of other’s success. The three greatest difficulties people face in life are those of wealth, position and survival. However, very few people are equal across all three issues, and so people lacking in self-knowledge end up unconsciously comparing themselves to others, and wind up feeling depressed and at a loss, and thus is an inferiority complex born. Feelings of inferiority make people extremely over-sensitive. Conversations, choice of words, even other people’s actions all get magnified, and they assume that it is all personally directed at themselves. Doubts are redoubled, they become paranoid about everything, insecure, worried over every trifle, their mental state all over the place. They themselves are also miserable and unhappy, but they blame their suffering on society and the outside world. They are unable to engage in self-reflection, and see themselves as they really are.

How 屌丝 Become 屌丝

The life of a 屌丝 is spent mired deep in resentment, hatred, hostility, intolerance, narrow-mindedness, feelings of inferiority, hypocrisy and selfishness – not a healthy way for anyone to be. I do believe that most people are not like this. Self-mockery is one way of resolving such feelings, but you often resorts to self-mockery, you risk losing a sense of proportion and becoming a real 屌丝, as you are continually suggesting to yourself – you really are a 屌丝. So, where do 屌丝 come from? Surely it isn’t all a result of autosuggestion? Of course not.

1、Family Factors

家庭环境的因素之大,超过我们所能想象。他是从什么样的家庭出生成长的,他就以这个原生家庭对他的塑造过活,那些好的,不好的影响形成了习惯,并转变为后天的性格,最终通过这种性格,走完他的人生和命运。家庭真的这么可怕吗?其实应该说家庭的影响力太大,看看父母皆祸害小组即知。幸运的是,人有自我意志,当他在家庭关系中感到局促,压抑,就会反抗,我们每一个人成人之后都会离开那个家庭,这也是一种解脱。但仅仅为了解脱是不够的,更不能因为过去所遭受的错误教导而一刀切断与父母的关系。那个脱离,可以给我们一次自我成长的机会,人是自我教育的动物,这是人的灵性,任何动物都无法比拟。难道心灵的成长不是一个自我反思自我教育、调节认知的过程吗?只有认知的改变,才会改变你的行为模式,而行为模式的改变和新的习惯养成,却可潜移默化你的性格。不要说江山易改本性难移,没有谁一生来就懂得宽容、克己、掌握爱的能力。这些都是后天的自我教育和反思的,当然,人性中的良善也是使得人之所以能成为高尚的人的原因之一。

2、社会因素

这通常被归咎为制度。如何理解?很多人说,我是被逼的,制度就是这样,社会就是这样。我承认,每个人都受到社会的影响,可社会是什么?社会也是由每一个人组成的。什么样的社会有什么样的人,什么样的人有什么样的社会,这句话是把双刃剑,指出了推诿责任给社会是个人的不道德,我们也要意识到制度不仅仅是强制性的规则层面,更大的层面是群体中的人价值观、习俗和风尚。比如,我们都厌恶贪污腐败,恨不得把贪官都揪出来,可是在一遇到某些社会性的民生问题就会要求政府管一管,于是为了这个管一管顺应民意,政府就会产生更冗长的官僚队伍,要管一管,就等于你给予了官僚阶层更多的权力,他们拿着权力寻租,徇私舞弊的现象屡禁不止为什么?就是这个道理。

把责任推诿给社会是很容易的,这个没有特定指称的名词成为靶子,什么都能往里扔。“是社会不好!”言下之意是,是他们不好,我的不好是被逼的。其实个人没有这么多无奈,个人也不是被逼的,这是最显而易见的群体盲从罢了。缺乏理智的反省,就只能成为激情的奴隶,哪怕这个激情是负面的,消极的,也是如此强烈的追随着群体,深怕自己脱离了群体,成为分外醒目的人,这要被人说成是不好的,是病态的。中庸之道被奉为圭臬,很符合国人的集体主义思潮,这是漫长的千年帝制文化土壤结下的果,当然更遗憾的是,在这种压抑的帝制文化历史中,鲜少有抗争,多为顺民。这,不容得我们不好好反思一下。

3、个人因素

所以我的重点还是要谈谈个人因素。为什么说人是有灵性的?人的理想和梦想需要某种推动力,那是欲望的一部分,更重要的是一份信念。信念是什么?要把它说清楚很不容易,那可以写一本书了。我没指望自己能阐述清楚,我就把非常浅薄的见解提一提。

动物是没有信念的,所以人和动物的区别在这里,这个信念与人的灵性有关。信念不是一蹴而就,也绝非漫长的形成,它有一个厚积薄发,识力达到了一定的程度,在那个当下的顿悟。信念就是这样无中生有的,有时候信念与信仰互用。当然,它体现了你的价值观和认知,也体现了你有多少的意志力和诚恳。这个诚恳,不是对着什么神灵,而是对自己的内心,你对你自己的诚恳。你做不到内观和反思,你就是虚伪的,随后你在学理上、交际上、为人处世上待他人虚伪,只有真诚对待自己的人,才有能力给予别人真诚。所以人要是不傻,我们都可以分清楚这个人是不是虚伪。赞美和敷衍,也许说出来的是同一句话,但我们可以立刻感受他的真伪。

少年派就讲了一个道理——信念。我不知道看过这部电影的人有没有对此的思考,而这个思考是要指向自己的。很多影评争论的是那个两个版本的故事哪个是事实?或者从欲望的角度、本能的角度阐述信念。却极少有人能把这个思考指向自己。啊,我知道少年派表达了人的信念,然后呢?不了了之。少年派是一个发生过即失去的事件,那只是一部电影,看过那么多那么多书,真正给予自己解惑的真理的却几乎没有,因为读过了就读过了,没能留下点什么。其实真理是通过在思考中的苦苦求索而得。要做深入的思考,那是很难的,为什么?思考是痛苦的,尤其是转向对自己的思考更痛苦,出于人天然的惰性,能不做就不做。随众、随大流就简单多了,也不会被当做变态。霍妮写的那个时代,大多数人或多或少是病态的,极少有正常的人。反而正常的人被当做变态。那我们这个时代呢?亦复如此。

指向自己的思考,是对自己负责的,对自己坦诚,也是需要付出勇气的。我能拿出多少勇气?多少坦诚?做不到的人,总是在逃避现实,逃避追问,逃避思考,他其实在逃避自己。通过内观自证通达,内心世界才会扩展,放大,内心世界犹如浩瀚的宇宙,深不可测,一个人的气场有多大?是无边的,气场是由内心决定的,一个人的内心有多宽厚,他眼中的世界才有多宽厚,人的视界由内心决定。

人和人的差距与其说是识力的差距,视界的差距,不如说是内心世界的差距。改变认知远远比改变性格难得多,而改变认知,只有自己做得到,所以说人是自我教育的,是有灵性的,人是可以自我救赎的。

by 刀劈三观荔枝

2013-1-18日 PS:

看来,很多网友的反馈告诉了我一个惊天的秘密,原来在中国,“屌丝”是政治正确,你没资格也不能随意评说,小心屌丝们把你给灭了。

2013-1-21日 PS:

有人跑到我的相册留言说,像你这种女人,你知道底层人民的辛苦吗?

OMD,我真不知道屌丝的定义千万种,其中一条是底层人民!!我很遗憾地说,我没有智慧给出屌丝的定义,我只能描述我认为的屌丝是什么样子的,在文中已经给出。

不管我的描述是否准确,这就是我所看到的屌丝心态。

我不以身份、天赋、地位、财富来评定一个人是不是屌丝。如果因为屌丝一词而产生诸多歧义,那你们可以置换成“烂泥巴”。

这里,我补上写完此文赴约的照片。有日期为证。

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