同志同志 – Comrades, comrades – English

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Although most people consider that Hong Kong’s Gay Rights March has basically no chance of forcing the legislative council to pass a new Equal Rights Act, at least, we saw the strength of humanity being born.

I have no shortage of smart friends around me, and among them are people with different sexual orientations. The most liberal among them (who is also the most educated) came out of the closet before graduating, he’s had two boyfriends since. He is currently single’ and his emotional life is no different from the joys and sorrows of other couples. I have another friend who is also very liberal, but likes to throw smoke and mirrors in front of his inclinations. I heard that his parents are helping him find a Chinese (or a Vietnamese) bride. Indeed, many Asian women go crazy at the thought of getting an American green card through marriage. If my friend accepts this marriage, I wouldn’t blame him for it, and I might also not have particular sympathy for the girl.

People, in final analysis, are social animals.

In China, I also have friends who are not attracted by the other sex. Among them, there is one who always reminds me of Jia Baoyu from Dream of Red Chambers. When he was little, he took dancing classes, he has a good voice; he also has a secret boyfriend. But recently, his parents forced him to join the army, get married and have children (I heard that barracks encouraged certain tendencies,’see dont ask dont tell policy’). Although when he now embraces his son his smile is as sweet as it was when he was younger, I feel particularly sad when I think about the situation of his wife, because I know that there is a special social category in China, called ‘gay wife’ 同妻. I was very brave and discussed this topic with my mother, but of course, she just scoffed and mocked me, she was positive that being ‘gay’ was a Western thing, and it did not exist in China.

Whether homosexuality is or isn’t a Western thing, I’m not sure. I know that, in the world, there are people who are physiologically gay 生理同性恋 and others who are psychologically gay 心理同性恋, and I don’t deny that psychological homosexuality would happen more easily in the West, where social barriers are lower than in China. But I also heard that homosexuality is commonly found among birds and mammals. For example, 10% of goats, come breeding season, will go towards goats of the same-sex, and so, China’s gay population should not be smaller than in the West.

But among us, they are very inconspicuous

For instance, do you remember that man, Mao Ning, who lost his star status because he came out of the closet? I saw his this summer, and found that he was as handsome as ever, and his voice had taken no step backward. China also has a very famous dancer called ‘Venus’. Of course, she’s now become ‘sister Venus’, and I very much like the program she hosts, ‘Venus hits the Earth’, 其中言词犀利一针见血的评论定是好过那些夸夸其谈的娱乐自己的主播很多倍,what’s more, she’s got a German husband who loves her and runs her own dance school – her success is impressive.

I particularly like what He Yunshi said yesterday: that, apart from being homosexual, gay people have numerous other identities, they can be as good as we are, they might even be better than we are, they are not excellent ‘gays’, they are excellent – people.

We are, however, equal. And all people are equal.

Oh yes, I know. I know that even in Western countries, the Equal Rights movement for gay people is not sailing smooth. But don’t we often say that Chinese culture is more inclusive and compassionate?

Today, I’m not talking about the law. I know very clearly what the possible impact of anti-discrimination and same-sex marriage laws on the current system would be. I know even more that the law always lags behind social development. But I wish that everyone could look around, and if among your circles of friends you’ve got one or two gay people, don’t let the previous suspicious of aloofness prevail, give them a hug, so they know they’re not alone.

西方不为同性恋婚姻立法大开绿灯是因为宗教传统,中国又是为啥?性取向和偏食挑食一样应该是个人自由,和体形有高矮胖瘦一样无善无恶,为什么不能得到尊重?

该唯物的时候某裆又不知为何保守起来了……

据闻高官里也有同志,却都不帮同们争取,叹,可见同志里是有坏人的!

我觉得,同性恋的问题,不是中西方的问题,因为只要是人,就会有其的意识、思想、思考、七情六欲与选择,无论在什么国度,所以说同性恋是西方的根本不成立。更何况你也说了“人归根到底,都是社会动物。”我们都是社会动物,而且我国古代就有很多同性恋的…. 我高中就曾被同性表白过了 = = 虽然我拒绝了。

我觉得,同性恋的问题,不是问题。无论男人还是女人,首先,他是一个人。无论他爱上的是男人还是女人,首先,他爱上的是一个人,而那个人恰好是同性,而已。而同性恋之所以那么艰难,是因为这个社会,是因为世俗传统的力量。很简单,因为同性的结合不像大多数的异性结合,可以创造和延续生命,因为异性恋多,所以同性恋才显得不同而已。在中国谈性色变,更何况是谈与传统价值观不一样的性?所以才让本该自然正常的事,变得那么苦涩晦暗。

不是每个人都能理解,不是每个人都能体谅。我从初中开始了解接触同性恋相关知识,曾经我问过我同学如果成为了同性恋,她们会怎样,她们说只要不要搞她,没关系。有一个说会疏远我,因为怕我会喜欢上她。我就觉得,她们不怕我变同性恋,只要与她们无关就好了。还有,每次我大学宿友说到对面宿舍的那对疑似同性恋,她的表情都有点难堪与不理解。很多很多,让我觉得,不能理解、不能接受与包容同性恋,会不会是一个人的缺失?

即使不能接受,但至少,要学会尊重啊。尊重别人的选择、自由与意向,这难道不是一个人应有的素质吗!同性恋、异性恋、双性恋,都不过是恋的一种而已,就像你喜欢吃青菜,他喜欢吃蕹菜,都是吃菜而已。不明白为何这么简单的事,放到社会上就复杂了。爱一个人的心情,都是一样的。

你如何确定你的灵魂找到自己的样貌和身体呢?

有空读读《性心理学吧》。

——不是针对此文,而是自己对同性恋的一些感受而已。



Source : My1510

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