会用敬谦词是写好工作函件的起码要求 – Politeness is a minimum requirement for professional correspondence – English

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I rarely quarrel with other people online, but two days ago, I had some disagreements with young friends online over a weibo message – mostly criticisms or even abuse from college students, which brought some sadness to my heart.

It all started from a professional message sent by a student at a prestigious School of Communications. This young women @’ed the famous actor Yao Chen on weibo, saying to her Yao: “Hi Yao Chen, I’m a student from the 2011 class in such and such university. Our iteacher asked us to do one interview with a celebrity. I really admire you, and would like to have a half hour interview with you.” Yao Chen agreed to this request. But I sent a message saying that this way of doing was wrong, that at the very least, when sending the first interview request, you should address the other person with the polite form and not the familiar form ; and use the proper words to mark respect 其次一位晚辈对年长者说“欣赏”太不合适,而应当是“敬佩”、“钦佩”或“敬仰”,哪怕是说“喜欢”,“欣赏”多用于长辈对晚辈,上司对下属。

Who would have thought that sending this message on weibo would be like poking a hornet’s nest? Many young internet users started arguing with me, calling me “pedantic” and “conservative” – and these were among the most polite words I received; some people said I “didn’t know how serious my state was”, that I was playing ‘know it all’ 好为人师, that I “fought in defense of past hierarchy”, etc.

To be honest, I did not expect a kindly reminder to attract such opposition, so I tried to have an exchange with these objectors. I discover that most of them did not deliberately disregard interpersonal courtesy, but didn’t even know what courtesy is. Some argued with me that interviewee and interviewer are equal, that the interviewer does not need to act inferior, etc. I told them, if you want other people to do something for you, showing respect is basic common sense, it has nothing to do with status and hierarchy. Other people, for instance, mentioned the early days of Ji Xianlin at Beijing University, and how he asked Freshmen to take care of his bags. I said this is the same thing as the interview with Yao Chen, it’s about showing due respect for your elders, but the younger generation can’t gives reasons why you shoulnd’t respect the rules of courtesy 但晚辈不能因此 就有不需要讲礼节的理由. Some even said that Yao Chen is an entertainment celebrity, and so doesn’t need to be addressed with particular respect. 我回应说这种说法恰好表明心中有尊卑贵贱之分,when you interview someone, even a tramp on the street, the interviewer should show respect to them. Some people also said that, as long as you said things clearly, that was enough, and what’s the point of so much attention to bureaucratic details? I replied, clothes are mostly used to keep warm and protect ourselves, so why so much attention to colour and style? Language and clothes are similar, you should pay attention to beauty and elegance.

This might seem like a trivial matter, but it reflect a great problem in our current education system, 即在教授专业知识之外,缺乏对学生起码的人际交往的教育—–这些教育本来在家庭和幼儿 园就应该完成。以新闻传媒专业为例,许多院系重视对学生采访与新闻产品后期制作的技术训练,but they neglect to teach students how to write a request for an interview or draft a letter. 这些年来,不 少媒体的编辑向我约稿,收到的约稿信中许多如那位请求采访姚晨的女同学那样,干巴巴如布置作业那样,希望我给他供稿。虽然我知道这是缺乏相关方面的教育所 致,不以为忤。如果偶尔接到一封雅驯而有礼的约稿信函,如“钦佩先生道德文章,恳请先生拨冗赐稿”之类,心里很舒服——当然知道这是戴高帽。但因此更乐意 为之写稿,并往往与编辑能建立起友好的个人关系。

我想人同此心,心同此理,most people hope to be treated with respect when dealing with others, so you but learn how to respect others. Of course, in regards to marks of respect, different nations and different eras will have different standards, but when it comes to communicating, especially work letters, using the proper codes of politeness 敬谦词 is a minimum requirement. Not just in East Asian countries, Japan, Korea, but even in Western Countries that emphasize equalities and where children call their parents by their first name to show intimacy, in social interactions, they pay great attention to using appropriate language to show respect when dealing with strangers 外人. 中华古称礼仪之邦,人际交往中的敬谦词丰富而复杂,到今天完全照搬确实不合时宜,但受过大学教育的人,对基本的 敬谦词使用应该有所了解,否则会闹出称对方父亲为“家父”介绍自己妻子为“夫人”的笑话。

If I was a journalism and media professor, before teaching any specific professional skills, I would first teach my students how to write a good professional letters, using the proper politeness codes. This seemingly insignificant piece of knowledge will be very useful in their future work.

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